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Lucy L-J's avatar

I have been so lucky as a child and adult not to be in that daunting place of no stability etc.....but I have never felt rooted anywhere and expected that I would as I got older....but now think perhaps I never will. I don't feel particularly connected to our home as a family now, I don't feel a particular pull anywhere especially either despite knowing we won't stay here for very long.....perhaps that is what comes with the privilege of not having that threatened at any time. I don't know. Or maybe it is my multi-generational wanderlust ...although I don't feel the need to travel (good job as son can't 😄), but I also don't feel a need to stay...hmmm....hope you had a good day and good ventures Suzanne x

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Alison's avatar

I can relate to trying to create the stability, security, roots and emotional safety for my children that I just didn't have. I used to panic over the fact that my youngest didn't have any space of his own, as our house was too small. Pleased you've had such a lovely time with J and now get to spend an extra night with him. Hope your events go well, I'm sure they will xxx

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Helen's avatar

Just catching up !

Very interesting your metaphorical wardrobe and how you connected that with stability .

My metaphorical wardrobe was the opposite as I cleared my wardrobe out over a few weeks with women's aid support, the things I found in there like the metal holder our marriage certificate was in and our wedding photos, it symbolised me moving on and getting rid of a very narcissistic ex. Still metaphorically cleaning him out of my life and healing .

Decision today was to work on my gifted fear based life..... This is a biggy for me I approached my day and the things I do with love not fear 💟 I can tell you I felt sooooo much calmer , had my moments , in pain with fibromyalgia struggled to walk but about 80% of the day I was leading with love .

I'm going to make it my goal / decision every morning to approach my day with love , I have this vision in my head which comes from doing parades at brownies, yes with the brown bobble hat and dress that was way too short because I was very tall for my age . The updated version is me carrying a flag with a huge love heart 💓 on it throughout the day, and having moments of Hong Kong fooey( think it was called that ,cartoon from childhood, anybody correct if I have it spelt wrong) and kicking , karate chopping that gifted fear into the trash can 🗑️🥋

Good luck with the calf burner walk Suzanne and enjoy your time with Jack xxx

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