So good to have you back, Suzanne and to know that all is well in your world 😍 A world that is growing with all the goodness and experience you're bringing to the Dove campaign. You have been missed 🤗
Welcome back oh great Rambler! A lot to think about in this one for me. Having moved on from feeling so guilty, now blaming myself for my daughter feeling shame if it is “given” by someone - but you only do your best until you know better! Boundaries vs Necessities has got me thinking as if I reframe this, I’m still exhausted by necessities and surely that must influence change. Super “boundaried “ around my child but not me and my time. Too wiped out to do my walking too or eyelashes! So, back on it, hoping change is around the corner, necessitating ( new word) is bringing connection which is a real positive! Just need more sleep and time for me- think I have blown my anonymity! X
I’m a red head too or strawberry blonde as my Mum used to say! I hated my colour as a child because I got teased about it at school. Only as an adult do people think it’s amazing, but the damage is done!
Body image has alway been an issue for me. Don’t know where it comes from. I was looking at photos recently and I couldn’t believe how trim I looked when I know I have always been told I’m heavy boned and I’ve always thought of myself as fat.
I have lived up to these expectations! Now I’m properly obese and don’t know where to start to get back to health! I feel a certain amount of shame about my size and I certainly feel judged for it, especially in my working environment.
Going to reflect!
Thanks Suzanne for coming back to us. I’m glad you are healing. Your wise words are keeping me afloat during tough times. Xxx
💕💕💕 Language is so important isnt it. My girls have taught me to say "i love your outfit u have on today" or "i love the way you sre wearing your hair today" instead of "you look beautiful". They say it takes the pressure off them thinking about their bodies.
Hmmm. It's always good to hear you and I'm glad you're back. You do have me asking questions. What do you mean by someone gives you shame? Someone I love is struggling with shame. They are guilty of wrong and I bear the brunt of the hurt. I have chosen to genuinely forgive. They are still struggling with shame. I am doing my best to build them up. Can you help me understand?
Lovely to listen to you again with your calm , compassionate, wise voice , you've been missed.
Glad you got out and amazing pmh is partnered with Dove 🕊
A pause is a boundary ,that's massive , thank you 😊, I'm definitely more of a pause person since doing pnp, that's the space I gift myself before I respond .
Intense week here ! Acknowledging gifted shame .....that's also a biggy for me , trauma has pushed so much into my unconscious mind , I'm taking those baby steps and trying to listen to that shame .
"My hope for you consumes me" yes absolutely how I feel. Went to see The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry .....trigger warning for alcohol/drug reliance and suicide ......quite a triggering film ways that only parents and carers in PMH and other groups and these situations would feel triggered......I am ginger and have always been complimented on my hair, and I have always loved it as a result, as opposed to many of 'my kind' who have only experienced negativity around their hair and therefore dye it/hide it/deride it/hate it.....so actually these positive references have massively helped me ..although, what happens when I go white and lose what makes me different and worthy of compliment?? I actually dread that day/happening as my hair colour is so defining to me.....therefore I do actually agree that it is a shame we focus on peoples' appearance, as this can be so transitory or subjective......interesting reflection that may help me when I do finally become 'more white than red'....x
So good to have you back, Suzanne and to know that all is well in your world 😍 A world that is growing with all the goodness and experience you're bringing to the Dove campaign. You have been missed 🤗
Love the trees pics and the thought to ‘take a pause‘ when you feel boundaries are missing.
Wisdom as ever - glad to hear you again xx
Ah isn’t it lovely to have everyone back in this “space” 😊.
Welcome back oh great Rambler! A lot to think about in this one for me. Having moved on from feeling so guilty, now blaming myself for my daughter feeling shame if it is “given” by someone - but you only do your best until you know better! Boundaries vs Necessities has got me thinking as if I reframe this, I’m still exhausted by necessities and surely that must influence change. Super “boundaried “ around my child but not me and my time. Too wiped out to do my walking too or eyelashes! So, back on it, hoping change is around the corner, necessitating ( new word) is bringing connection which is a real positive! Just need more sleep and time for me- think I have blown my anonymity! X
I hear you Deana x
I’m a red head too or strawberry blonde as my Mum used to say! I hated my colour as a child because I got teased about it at school. Only as an adult do people think it’s amazing, but the damage is done!
Body image has alway been an issue for me. Don’t know where it comes from. I was looking at photos recently and I couldn’t believe how trim I looked when I know I have always been told I’m heavy boned and I’ve always thought of myself as fat.
I have lived up to these expectations! Now I’m properly obese and don’t know where to start to get back to health! I feel a certain amount of shame about my size and I certainly feel judged for it, especially in my working environment.
Going to reflect!
Thanks Suzanne for coming back to us. I’m glad you are healing. Your wise words are keeping me afloat during tough times. Xxx
💕💕💕 Language is so important isnt it. My girls have taught me to say "i love your outfit u have on today" or "i love the way you sre wearing your hair today" instead of "you look beautiful". They say it takes the pressure off them thinking about their bodies.
Hmmm. It's always good to hear you and I'm glad you're back. You do have me asking questions. What do you mean by someone gives you shame? Someone I love is struggling with shame. They are guilty of wrong and I bear the brunt of the hurt. I have chosen to genuinely forgive. They are still struggling with shame. I am doing my best to build them up. Can you help me understand?
Lovely to listen to you again with your calm , compassionate, wise voice , you've been missed.
Glad you got out and amazing pmh is partnered with Dove 🕊
A pause is a boundary ,that's massive , thank you 😊, I'm definitely more of a pause person since doing pnp, that's the space I gift myself before I respond .
Intense week here ! Acknowledging gifted shame .....that's also a biggy for me , trauma has pushed so much into my unconscious mind , I'm taking those baby steps and trying to listen to that shame .
Look forward to listening tomorrow xx
I got this message yesterday when I tried to listen "Failed to play this media: it may not be supported by this browser." x
"My hope for you consumes me" yes absolutely how I feel. Went to see The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry .....trigger warning for alcohol/drug reliance and suicide ......quite a triggering film ways that only parents and carers in PMH and other groups and these situations would feel triggered......I am ginger and have always been complimented on my hair, and I have always loved it as a result, as opposed to many of 'my kind' who have only experienced negativity around their hair and therefore dye it/hide it/deride it/hate it.....so actually these positive references have massively helped me ..although, what happens when I go white and lose what makes me different and worthy of compliment?? I actually dread that day/happening as my hair colour is so defining to me.....therefore I do actually agree that it is a shame we focus on peoples' appearance, as this can be so transitory or subjective......interesting reflection that may help me when I do finally become 'more white than red'....x