I listened to you on the drive back from the gym run, as mum duties don't stop for Mother's Day, and responded to you as you spoke, but needed to listen again to comment. So pleased you didn't have a vulnerability hangover, as they're awful, and had some release - without any judgement, or pity x In the words of Kati Morton - "stop should-ing all over yourself". More self compassion, less judgement of yourself my lovely friend x You and Ross aren't two halves, you're two whole's and it's healthy to do this, and you still have your holidays together - and you NEED this break. It's definitely not about fitting in, but it is about belonging, with yourself and those in your life. Pleased you're not apologising as it's not needed, and grateful you posted it. Imagine those words in the cards are worth far more than any big public announcement. I too felt like a single parent in my marriage for similar reasons and other ones. Doesn't sound weird at all, makes perfect sense (peace). What a really lovely message from your friend, wise words and hope they penetrate xxx
Happy mother's Day Suzanne, glad you had flowers and cards 💐💐 and no vulnerability hangover .
I've always felt like a single parent ,even when I was married , my ex counter parented , it just took me along time to wake up to the fact his actions were intentional!
I always carry sadness on mother's Day as I miss my eldest son, time is a healer but days like this bring my sadness to the forefront .
On the other hand the girls have bought me cards and little presents🎁🎁, so I'm feeling loved. 💗💗💗xxxx
Am feeling quite emotional today as our differences as a family are more pronounced on days like this - I can't see my own mum because we can't visit the same time as my brother, we don't see my husband's family as son can't travel and are rarely thought of by that branch let alone visited....and my son cannot express his love for me in the 'usual way'....haven't really worked out how he does/will do...resigned ourselves to him not acknowledging these days/our birthdays/his love for us as he gets older.....letting go of expectations is a continuing journey...this is a bump in that road. I don't think my son will ever be able to feel or say 'Thank you for everything you do'....and am trying to process that hurt today.....have days all x
Happy Mothers Day ! Glad you got some lovely flowers and cards. I got shampoo and conditioner and some stress relief radox! My card is somewhere in the house unwritten - look forward to that! But all that is fine with me and I know my kids appreciate me and my husband bought the “practical gifts! Have actually had a lovely day with my daughter seeing how happy her day has been. I totally get your worry about being away from Izzy, I went to Scotland last year for my birthday and as soon as I got off the plane my daughter rang in tears! I bought a huge bottle of gin and started the holiday crying my eyes out in the Tesco car park!.... she was fine and Izzy can still text you at 3 am when your in Barbados. Please take time for you, don’t feel you have to do daily rambles while draped in a sheet! You give so much to everyone and need a break! And check out that heart pain, you’ve mentioned that a few times ( I’m being mum now x) .
I listened to you on the drive back from the gym run, as mum duties don't stop for Mother's Day, and responded to you as you spoke, but needed to listen again to comment. So pleased you didn't have a vulnerability hangover, as they're awful, and had some release - without any judgement, or pity x In the words of Kati Morton - "stop should-ing all over yourself". More self compassion, less judgement of yourself my lovely friend x You and Ross aren't two halves, you're two whole's and it's healthy to do this, and you still have your holidays together - and you NEED this break. It's definitely not about fitting in, but it is about belonging, with yourself and those in your life. Pleased you're not apologising as it's not needed, and grateful you posted it. Imagine those words in the cards are worth far more than any big public announcement. I too felt like a single parent in my marriage for similar reasons and other ones. Doesn't sound weird at all, makes perfect sense (peace). What a really lovely message from your friend, wise words and hope they penetrate xxx
Happy mother's Day Suzanne, glad you had flowers and cards 💐💐 and no vulnerability hangover .
I've always felt like a single parent ,even when I was married , my ex counter parented , it just took me along time to wake up to the fact his actions were intentional!
I always carry sadness on mother's Day as I miss my eldest son, time is a healer but days like this bring my sadness to the forefront .
On the other hand the girls have bought me cards and little presents🎁🎁, so I'm feeling loved. 💗💗💗xxxx
Am feeling quite emotional today as our differences as a family are more pronounced on days like this - I can't see my own mum because we can't visit the same time as my brother, we don't see my husband's family as son can't travel and are rarely thought of by that branch let alone visited....and my son cannot express his love for me in the 'usual way'....haven't really worked out how he does/will do...resigned ourselves to him not acknowledging these days/our birthdays/his love for us as he gets older.....letting go of expectations is a continuing journey...this is a bump in that road. I don't think my son will ever be able to feel or say 'Thank you for everything you do'....and am trying to process that hurt today.....have days all x
Happy Mothers Day ! Glad you got some lovely flowers and cards. I got shampoo and conditioner and some stress relief radox! My card is somewhere in the house unwritten - look forward to that! But all that is fine with me and I know my kids appreciate me and my husband bought the “practical gifts! Have actually had a lovely day with my daughter seeing how happy her day has been. I totally get your worry about being away from Izzy, I went to Scotland last year for my birthday and as soon as I got off the plane my daughter rang in tears! I bought a huge bottle of gin and started the holiday crying my eyes out in the Tesco car park!.... she was fine and Izzy can still text you at 3 am when your in Barbados. Please take time for you, don’t feel you have to do daily rambles while draped in a sheet! You give so much to everyone and need a break! And check out that heart pain, you’ve mentioned that a few times ( I’m being mum now x) .