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Helen's avatar

Just listened to the ramble whilst cooking tea , spaghetti 🍝 bolognase.

I was thinking of you having had 'mum' not 'dad' issues my entire life , wanted to give you a hug , sliced a pepper and voila a perfect red ❤️ heart shape for you as you didn't find one on your ramble .

I will try and add the photo to the Facebook ramble, not sure if I'm allowed🤔

Or I can messenger you the photo and you probably think I've lost the plot, but needed to send you a heart and a hug 🫂 to say ' I hear you ' x

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Suzanne Alderson's avatar

That’s so lovely Helen, thank you - and of course, use the group as you wish 🥰

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Mandy Moo's avatar

Hope you don’t mind joining me in the bath….I’ve finished 2 years of 10,000 steps a day so am soaking my feet! (Whilst the dog is sat in the shower….strands girl!)

I hear you. It sounds like we’ve had similar experiences growing up (though both parents involved here). I’ve also been estranged from my entire family since I was 26 (when my eldest son was a baby). It’s tough and the grief of it all is never far away but never have I regretted the decision.

The other topic intrigued me as I’m kind of facing the same situation in reverse. I have so many people telling me my son presents the way he does due to trauma and yet I believe deep down in my soul he’s neurodiverse and the poor MH is a result of not being diagnosed. Lots to muse on as I continue to soak my feet!

Thank you for always allowing comments 😊

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Suzanne Alderson's avatar

Of course, Mandy.

And on another ramble, I mentioned about both things being true - and they can be - trauma and neurodivergence are regular bedfellows sadly.

Congrats on 2 years! Enjoy the bath 🛀🏻🫶🏼

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Nic Latham's avatar

Thank you for your warm honesty Suzanne. Your words met me in the place I am at today. Hasn’t been an easy day personally but the ramble and PMH have helped me feel stronger xxx

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Mandy Moo's avatar

Hope you’re taking care of yourself Nic x

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Rachel Doell's avatar

When i hear you talk Suzanne I think how lucky Jack and Izzy are to have you as a mum. Sending love. I treated myself to a sit down on a bench this morning to listen to your ramble on my walk to work - will post a photo of my view on the FB site later x

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Roselle Potts's avatar

Your ramble today touched a few nerves for me. Having lost my very best friend 3 years ago aged just 60, my Mum almost 6 months ago after 7 years of dementia gradually diminishing her lovely self and hubby with terminal diagnosis I have done lots of reading about grief and loss but don't feel it always helps me. Currently listening to an audio book called Human Kind which is a very hopeful history of human nature that is very cheering..I recommend x

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Nic Latham's avatar

Such a lot of loss Roselle in such a short space of time. In addition, Dementia has its own complicated grief. Wanted to send you an extra warm hug ❤️

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Jude Dunn's avatar

Suzanne ♥️.

Thank you for sharing this bit of the story about Ross and you.

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